Tuesday, 12 December 2017

I choose to believe.

Pose : *!R.O!* Renew BENTO Pose (Note, this pose comes with a bird, I just swapped it out)
Robin : MishMish - Robins in the snow 
Location : Luane's World

Many of my friends know and understand the term and I feel like it should be a universal term for, well, everyone.
The original article is >here< and it's written in relation to Lupus. However, I feel like it should be noted that no matter who you are, you have a limited amount of spoons, daily.
The basic gist of the article is that you need a physical representation of the amount of energy you use each day. This could be spoons... this could be coins, basically, anything you can easily find multiples of. Each day, you are assigned a certain amount of "spoons". Let's say today, you have 12. That's a fair amount of spoons! Now what are you going to do with them?
For every activity you do today, you're going to give a spoon away.
Got out of bed? I'll take a spoon.
Brushed your teeth? I'll take another.
Showered? More spoons!
Gotten dressed? Yep. That'll be a spoon, please.

And the day kinda goes on like this.
The idea is to end up with no spoons, and no activities left to do. If you run out of spoons but for example, still need to take the rubbish out of the house, or a friend calls around unexpectedly and you have to act as a host for a while, you can borrow against your spoons for the next day - but that's going to leave you with less activities available for you tomorrow.. so you need to be extra careful you're not running on empty!
Sometimes, you have to do just that, which kind of leaves you in a difficult position.
Do you continue trying to do everything? Or do you take a rest-day and recover your spoons?

I love the idea of this "Spoon Theory". For me (and many around me) it makes mental illness, pain management & general day-to-day life so much easier to explain. Within my little group of people, if we're not in the mood to talk, we just use the term "I don't have enough spoons today", and we instantly understand each other and give the space that's needed, or offer support if necessary.

I like to think you can earn spoons back, too. Say you ask for help, maybe it's something as simple as you're hurting when you're putting your coat on, or you have a nagging issue you'd like some advice with. Having someone to help you with your coat, or offer a friendly ear could be a way of making you feel better, and thus grasping at a shiny new spoon to spend elsewhere that day.

It's really helped me in terms of having people understand why sometimes I just can't people. Hopefully, it'll help you, too.

All of the things :

Body, Hands & Feet : Maitreya Mesh Body - Lara
Skin : Essences - Rachel 
Head : CATWA Catya
Eyes : CATWA Mesh Eyes 
Eyes :  LOTUS. Lovely Eyes @ The Chapter Four
Brows : Viena :: Perfect Eyebrows Brown Bodyfy 
Blush : Izzie's - Winter Blush (Former Gift)
Ears Hairband : Included with the +Spellbound+ Honey hair
Hair : Tableau Vivant \\ December Collabor88
Collar : Kenvie - Gold Ring Choker - Brown (You can get a version of this collar FREE @ Consent!)
Dress & Cardigan : =Zenith=Cardigan Sweater with Shirt Dress @ Kustom9 (Opens 15th Dec) (Note : If you have ANY type of boobs, this dress is going to flatten them. I mean pancake flat.)
Nails : Astralia - Compatible mesh nails system
NailPolish : alme.   Fall Palette II - Shiny 
Rings : Amala - The Lumi Stacking Rings 
Bracelet/Watch : E-Clipse Fiocco Watch (Former Gift)

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